This is the LAST Friday round up for the year - for the decade! What's the saying - the days go slow and the years go fast? Good news though - still a lot happening this week. No matter what holiday you celebrate, this time of year is filled with hope for the future. And that goes for your career too. Because my other favorite saying rings true: You can observe a lot just by watching (thank you Mr. Yogi Berra).
I won't ask you what you did at work this year that you wish you hadn't. But I would like to know what you want to learn how to do differently or better next year????
This time of year, we are supposed to be doing a few of our favorite things. Of course, not everyone spends a lot of time with their favorite people, I mean, things. Take Megan McCain and Whoopi Goldberg. Yup, another exciting week on The View.
So, whether you are trying to find some peace and quiet to reflect, or hopping between parties, here's this week top 3 Career-Maker's to help you sign off 2019 and get ready for 2020...
1. Thank you Tom Cruise for reminding us you can ALWAYS reinvent your career - no matter what happens
Tom Cruise skyrocketed to stardom and then fell off hard with controversial issues like his couch-jumping interview with Oprah or his questions regarding his faith (Scientology). Yet he never gave up. Despite the fall out with the general public, he reinvented himself. First, he backed out of the public eye. Second, there was the Mission Impossible Series. And now here comes Top Gun 2 - a much anticipated sequel to the first movie.
Ever make a mistake at work - a really, really big mistake? Or worse, get blacklisted by colleagues and find it hard to secure a new job somewhere else? If your peers are willing to forgive you and you DON'T need to find a new job - great. Put your head down, do really good work and just be patient. In time, everyone forgets. If you encounter a bigger issue that just won't go away, don't be afraid to leave - leave the company, leave the industry, leave the city where you live. You can absolutely start fresh.
Just be sure to reflect, learn from your mistakes, and avoid any repeat performances.
2. The women at The View aren't keeping it real - that is NOT how you should behave, stand your ground or find your voice at work
Once again, Megan McCain and her co-hosts got into a heated political argument. That is nothing new. What is important is the lack of reflection, apologies or respect they have for each other. Disagreeing is ok. Disagreeing in a disrespectful manner is not ok. And because she - Megan McCain - couldn't stand to NOT have the last word, she took to Twitter to have her peace.Just don't.
Getting into a heated argument at work happens. But learning when to stay quiet, walk away or sleep on it is equally important. Don't run to twitter or email 3 colleagues about what just happened. Don't yell. Don't even raise your voice. Staying calm gives you power. Staying calm helps other people actually support you. And you don't have to stay IN the argument. You can excuse yourself. You can suggest that both parties calm down and reconvene later after everyone takes a minute (or 30). And never make the argument personal - stick to the topic at hand.
3. You don't have to be tall to be successful (right - Tom Cruise and Sally Fields?). But it sure feels that way
As a 2019 Kennedy Center Honoree, you wouldn't think Sally Field lacked confidence or felt inadequate. But in her acceptance speech, she discussed the downfalls of being viewed as "perky". She didn't feel like she was being taken seriously as an actor, often overlooked for roles. In 2018 she wisely told Diane Sawyer: "It is a lifetime of work and struggle and success and failure," she said. "The times when you feel absolutely slammed to the ground with defeat or disappointment or loss, just hopeless ... it’s up to you to be in pain and feel it and stand up and move again.”
I know many people that feel this way - men and women. Unfortunately, the tendency is to overcompensate by being forceful, strict, rude or leaning on your title/role to influence others. I am petite too. And when I was in my late 20's, advising Boards of F250 companies, I confided in my boss - why should they listen to me? He replied that perception is 90% reality. He reminded me of my expertise and skills and not to give in to my insecurities.
If you think people are viewing you as inferior in some way, then they will. But if you believe in yourself, are confident and overcome the obstacles in a way people respect, you will have every opportunity to make the same leaps and strides in your career as someone else (who might be taller😉).
KEY TAKEAWAY
I plan on taking some much needed time off to be in my favorite place (the Colorado mountains) with some of my favorite people. So while some of you ditch work to do some last minute shopping, celebrating, and vacaying - not everyone takes off. A big thank you to medical and healthcare professionals and other first responders who NEVER stop working!For me -what I want to do differently next year - is engage more with you and help you manage your career even more successfully. In January I start my series about how to manage your compensation throughout the year. Each month I will post an article about what you should be doing (and saying) to your teams and bosses to position yourself for a raise, promotion and/or bonus. You can't just have that conversation at the end of the year and expect to get what you want. I will give you the tools to manage that process all year long.
And don't forget to share what you want to differently or better next year!!!
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